Be Well

I’ve found myself becoming anxious about many things. This anxiety at times transpires to agitation, mood swings, etc. Majority of times I am pretty happy go lucky but I have my moments when I just feel overwhelmed.  To be completely transparent, at times I feel sad even.  Yes me, the newlywed, the mother of 1 amazing girl, me, the superwoman. I am a strong woman but at moments I feel weak. Weak to the pressures of work, family, etc. Life can be vastly overwhelming. My thoughts and emotions sometimes take me to another place and I’m pretty sure if I don’t get a handle it can take me to a very dark place.

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Why must we always put on a strong face and consider it taboo to have a moment of weakness or uneasiness? The stigma of being viewed as unstable or looney, the pressure of living up to these perfect lives on social media, or simply the fear of feeling like a failure results in many people fighting mental battles alone. Sometimes one may think, “Oh it’s nothing, everyone goes through stuff” or “I don’t want to complain to anyone about  issues.”  What we all must realize is just balancing life is heavy. Even if you do it in a way that seems seamless and perfect to others the wrath of this roller coaster of life can be pretty draining.

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It’s also ok to feel overwhelmed and burned out but we do not have to stay in that state. Lets put this mental health stigma to rest and take care of ourselves. No sense of looking good on the outside if you’re not feeling your very best on the inside!

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Today I vow to put me and my mental first. Seeking help does not make me weak. Drowning in sorrows does.  I never would have imagined I would desire to seek professional help but my mission in life to help others I must lead by example and promote healthiness on all levels. My job offers EAP (Employee Assistance Program) where you can get up to five counseling sessions free a year. I just started the process and hope to see someone soon. It’s a must I keep my mind strong and I encourage others to do the same!!!

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Be well & stay true!!!

 

Girls Trip in New Orleans

I don’t care what anyone says, you can never go to New Orleans too many times. The music, the food, the people… Just the overall culture.

What’s makes the big easy even better is a girls trip to the BIG EASY!!! We granted ourselves some much deserved time away from work & family life and just had a grand old time!

We ate, we drank, we laughed, we danced and um REPEAT yea just like that!! Let me give you a recap of what our girls trip New Orleans style looked like.

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New Orleans packed on the heat but we were ready!!!

My favorite way to get around this marvelous city is via street car. I recommend you to jump on one downtown and it will bring you back to where all the action is once you are done. To get the most for your cash purchase an all day pass which lasts for 24 hours so yea get going!

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Enjoying the famous New Orleans Street Cars

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Enjoying the famous New Orleans Street Cars

New Orleans is known for their above ground burials. Earlier days it was a struggle burying the dead without the casket floating back up due to the city’s high water tables. The solution was above ground tombs. Pretty genius and such a sight to see in a sort of eerie way of course. Source: New Orleans Above Ground Tombs

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New Orleans is famous for their above ground tombs

Throughout the city you can find amazing art. I plan to focus primarily on the arts my next visit to this wonderful place. Here are a couple that I found extraordinary.

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Exquisite… Love at first sight!!

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Art!!

To help balance things out from a lovely day of exploring with one of New Orleans popular libations in tow, in our case, The Hand Grenade. Be sure to eat. With so much to choose from you should have no issue in this area. From gumbo to jambalaya to fried catfish. Yes anything you can think up they got it!!

 

Oh and don’t forget your beignet, one of the delicacies New Orleans is known for!! Um um good!!!!

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So what is New Orleans without a little French Quarter & Bourbon Street action? Some consider it a tourist trap but I love it and all here for it. We even lucked up and caught a few parades!!

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There is never a dull moment on Bourbon St. It truly never sleeps!!

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There is never a dull moment on Bourbon St. It truly never sleeps!!

All and all my crew and I had a marvelous time. This was indeed a girls trip for the books!!

 

Until next time.

Love Soulfully True xoxox

Lets Catch Up

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Wow can you believe this year is almost over? 2018 has been a pretty great year for me. I graduated and earned my bachelor’s in May.

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In August, my love and I of six years had a wonderful budget wedding that I planned in 4 months, which I can’t wait to tell you more about (future blog post). This past September I got an unexpected promotion at work offering an increase in pay, new challenges and other rewards. So many wonderful things right?

 

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Mrs. Coppages

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The Coppages

As rewarding as 2018 has been this year has also been pretty emotional for me. I’ve learned plans don’t always go how you “plan”. I discovered the lack of authenticity in people, I begin to stop pouring so much of myself into people/relationships. Don’t get me wrong, I still nurture my mutually fulfilling relationships but the ones I am unsure about I started to not always reach out and see who still would. I’ve learned that it’s ok to grow apart from people even though you don’t want to grow apart and on the other hand I’ve learned the ones who don’t want to grow apart from you won’t. I’ve learned to love who loves me. I’ve learned to appreciate who’s there for me and not worry or harbor ill feelings towards those who aren’t. I’ve learned that unhappy people will never be happy for you.

I’ve second guessed myself, I’ve falsely assumed things. I’ve been wronged. I’ve been wrong. I’ve learned to appreciate the bright side of things. I’ve learned to speak my mind and be more expressive to things and people that’s in my corner instead of keeping things bottled in. I’ve learned to pull away from drama and chaos because once you’re pulled into it you’re a part of it.

I’ve learned that although social media is a wonderful tool it’s also one of the biggest tools of deception. I’ve learned the importance of unplugging from the virtual world often because the negative vibes can easily be internalized. I’ve learned to be more appreciative for what’s in front of me. I’ve learned to trust the process. I’ve learned to appreciate the highs and the lows. I’ve learned to remind myself that trouble don’t last long. I’ve learned that’s it’s ok to not always agree as long as what you take away from it is love and understanding. I’m choosing to embrace my realist but optimistic persona. I’m learning to really toughen up and get out of my feelings.

All and all I realized how blessed I am & I’m hoping to end the year out with a bang.  Loads of good vibes and making memories!

 

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How has 2018 been to you thus far? Any discoveries, observations, or insights?

Love,

Soulfully True

 

Finding Balance

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As a busy professional, wife, mother, and a host of other things you may be, life can get pretty hectic and you can easily become burnt out. As women, we tend to take care of everything and everyone and oftentimes, we neglect to take care of ourselves.

Below I have listed a few essentials that keeps me grounded and help me live a more balanced life:

  1. Distribute Tasks at Home– Home life can get hectic. As the woman of the house you are expected to make sure everything gets done and stays in order. Some probably can take on that role alone and somehow remain stress free. Me on the other hand, I solicit my other housemates for help. Everyone is responsible for given tasks around the house. This way everyone plays a role in keeping an orderly household and no one is stressed out and taking everything on. pexels-photo-273850.jpeg
  2. Invest in a Personal Notebook– If your thoughts are always all over the place like mine a notebook would benefit you. Whenever you think of something important or sometimes things that are not so important, take your notebook and jot it down. A busy lifestyle can sometimes take a toll on our memory so a handy, purse sized notebook will be your best friend.

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    My current favorite notebook. (I have so many 🙂 )

  3. Daily/Monthly Planner- With a busy and sometimes chaotic life, organization is the key to sanity. Keep your life in order with a handy-dandy calendar. Currently I am using the Happy Planner Faith- Grace Upon Grace Planner  

  4. Designate Positive Reading Time to Jump-start Your Day– This could be a bible verse, an inspiring quote, a self-help book, etc. This helps to create a positive outlook for your day. I get daily quotes from a mobile app called Enliven.Screenshot_20180111-153540
  5. Learn to Say No– Sometimes we take on more than necessary because of our natural nurturing and pleasing personalities. If you feel overwhelmed it is ok to say no! What good is the world if everyone is happy and carefree except for you? Do yourself and everyone around you a favor and just say NO to avoid unnecessary stress and burn out. no
  6. Do Something Special for You– Take some time away from the daily grind and do something pleasing for you. This can come in the form of a fun vacation, a massage, a night out with friends, sending your family out for a few hours so you can get a few hours of quiet time to maybe do something as simple as curl up and read a book. pexels-photo-428547.jpeg
  7. Have a Glass of Wine– Yes I said it. Sometimes a refreshing glass of wine is just what the doctor ordered to relax and unwind. If wine is not your thing please feel free to skip this tip. 🙂 pexels-photo-94437.jpeg

These are just a few of my must haves/must dos to assist me in living a more balanced life.

Please feel free to add to the list and share what works for you in the comment area. Also don’t forget to follow and subscribe.

Until next time,

Soulfully/Truthfully Yours

 

Happy 2018

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2017 was not too terrible. The good, job transitions, business launches, engagement (Yes engagement, I’m a  fiancee). The not so good, the loss of a friend dear to me to a tragic accident. Outside of the tragedy, it was basically a steady year that flew by extremely fast. I am truly grateful for the newfound insight and wisdom 2017 left me with. However, I am glad for another year and a new beginning.

To cap the year off I got a chance to do one of my favorite things with one of my favorite gal pals. Paint and Sip!!! Yes, who knew that painting your own unique masterpiece could be so therapeutic. If you’ve never taken a paint class you must treat yourself. I have been to several venues who host paint and sip (you get to paint and enjoy a beverage, customarily wine, BYOB). For this outing I visited Pinot’s Palette. I loved the atmosphere and the hosts were awesome as well.

Check out some of the pics from our wonderful paint night experience:

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Me with my finished creation

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My bff & I enjoying our chilly night out

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Our hostess painting that guided us through the night!

 

Looking forward to filling you in on some things and having you along for the journey of this new year. Please subscribe so you won’t miss a beat.

~Soulfully/Truthfully Yours~

 

 

Class is Back in Session

 

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So yesterday was the first day of classes. This semester I have 2 online and 1 that I am going in for. I have my planner in order and getting myself organized for the semester. As I am preparing for the semester I see that me being in class 2 nights a week (Tues & Thurs) and other obligations on Wednesdays I will be away from home more often than not during the week.

Yesterday we grabbed fast food on my way in from class. I was actually disgusted with it. I made a mental note to myself that my family and I will not eat fast food several nights a week this semester so of course I had to come up with a plan.

Meal prepping is a practice that I’ve been hearing about forever but never took the time to try out myself. Starting this Sunday I plan to prepare at least 3-4 meats for the week. My classes are not too too long so I can easily prepare sides when I get home. With the meats prepared I won’t have  to worry about everyone being up way past their bedtimes waiting for dinner to get done. I can see everyone sitting down to eat dinner by 8:00 p.m. then going to bed no later than 9:00 p.m. This meal prepping thing will save money and time.

Juggling a full-time job, a family, and school is not the easiest but there are no excuses. You have to try out different things that will help make your journey easier for you. I will keep you all posted about my meal prepping. If you have any tips or suggestions for me please leave them in the comments.

*Soulfully True*

HELLO 2017

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Happy 2017 everyone!!

I welcome it with open arms.

The last leg of 2016  (July & after) was totally unpredictable. If you read “The Master-Plan is not always Master” you know I was let go from my job of 7 years. That was a total shock. I lost my paternal grandmother the day after my last day of employment. That brought on another whirlwind of emotions. Both of these things were totally unexpected. You can never prepare yourself for such things. After the initial  shock and emotions from my losses I got through the rest of the year with a high held head and joy in my heart. I refused to let myself stay down in a funk.

Ok now. Enough of that already… HELLO 2017!!!

I’m so grateful for a clean slate and the opportunity at all life has to offer.

Stay tuned…..