Lets Catch Up

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Wow can you believe this year is almost over? 2018 has been a pretty great year for me. I graduated and earned my bachelor’s in May.

 

In August, my love and I of six years had a wonderful budget wedding that I planned in 4 months, which I can’t wait to tell you more about (future blog post). This past September I got an unexpected promotion at work offering an increase in pay, new challenges and other rewards. So many wonderful things right?

 

As rewarding as 2018 has been this year has also been pretty emotional for me. I’ve learned plans don’t always go how you “plan”. I discovered the lack of authenticity in people, I begin to stop pouring so much of myself into people/relationships. Don’t get me wrong, I still nurture my mutually fulfilling relationships but the ones I am unsure about I started to not always reach out and see who still would. I’ve learned that it’s ok to grow apart from people even though you don’t want to grow apart and on the other hand I’ve learned the ones who don’t want to grow apart from you won’t. I’ve learned to love who loves me. I’ve learned to appreciate who’s there for me and not worry or harbor ill feelings towards those who aren’t. I’ve learned that unhappy people will never be happy for you.

I’ve second guessed myself, I’ve falsely assumed things. I’ve been wronged. I’ve been wrong. I’ve learned to appreciate the bright side of things. I’ve learned to speak my mind and be more expressive to things and people that’s in my corner instead of keeping things bottled in. I’ve learned to pull away from drama and chaos because once you’re pulled into it you’re a part of it.

I’ve learned that although social media is a wonderful tool it’s also one of the biggest tools of deception. I’ve learned the importance of unplugging from the virtual world often because the negative vibes can easily be internalized. I’ve learned to be more appreciative for what’s in front of me. I’ve learned to trust the process. I’ve learned to appreciate the highs and the lows. I’ve learned to remind myself that trouble don’t last long. I’ve learned that’s it’s ok to not always agree as long as what you take away from it is love and understanding. I’m choosing to embrace my realist but optimistic persona. I’m learning to really toughen up and get out of my feelings.

All and all I realized how blessed I am & I’m hoping to end the year out with a bang.  Loads of good vibes and making memories!

 

 

How has 2018 been to you thus far? Any discoveries, observations, or insights?

Love,

Soulfully True

 

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Finding Balance

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As a busy professional, wife, mother, and a host of other things you may be, life can get pretty hectic and you can easily become burnt out. As women, we tend to take care of everything and everyone and oftentimes, we neglect to take care of ourselves.

Below I have listed a few essentials that keeps me grounded and help me live a more balanced life:

  1. Distribute Tasks at Home– Home life can get hectic. As the woman of the house you are expected to make sure everything gets done and stays in order. Some probably can take on that role alone and somehow remain stress free. Me on the other hand, I solicit my other housemates for help. Everyone is responsible for given tasks around the house. This way everyone plays a role in keeping an orderly household and no one is stressed out and taking everything on. pexels-photo-273850.jpeg
  2. Invest in a Personal Notebook– If your thoughts are always all over the place like mine a notebook would benefit you. Whenever you think of something important or sometimes things that are not so important, take your notebook and jot it down. A busy lifestyle can sometimes take a toll on our memory so a handy, purse sized notebook will be your best friend.

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    My current favorite notebook. (I have so many 🙂 )
  3. Daily/Monthly Planner- With a busy and sometimes chaotic life, organization is the key to sanity. Keep your life in order with a handy-dandy calendar. Currently I am using the Happy Planner Faith- Grace Upon Grace Planner  

  4. Designate Positive Reading Time to Jump-start Your Day– This could be a bible verse, an inspiring quote, a self-help book, etc. This helps to create a positive outlook for your day. I get daily quotes from a mobile app called Enliven.Screenshot_20180111-153540
  5. Learn to Say No– Sometimes we take on more than necessary because of our natural nurturing and pleasing personalities. If you feel overwhelmed it is ok to say no! What good is the world if everyone is happy and carefree except for you? Do yourself and everyone around you a favor and just say NO to avoid unnecessary stress and burn out. no
  6. Do Something Special for You– Take some time away from the daily grind and do something pleasing for you. This can come in the form of a fun vacation, a massage, a night out with friends, sending your family out for a few hours so you can get a few hours of quiet time to maybe do something as simple as curl up and read a book. pexels-photo-428547.jpeg
  7. Have a Glass of Wine– Yes I said it. Sometimes a refreshing glass of wine is just what the doctor ordered to relax and unwind. If wine is not your thing please feel free to skip this tip. 🙂 pexels-photo-94437.jpeg

These are just a few of my must haves/must dos to assist me in living a more balanced life.

Please feel free to add to the list and share what works for you in the comment area. Also don’t forget to follow and subscribe.

Until next time,

Soulfully/Truthfully Yours

 

Happy 2018

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2017 was not too terrible. The good, job transitions, business launches, engagement (Yes engagement, I’m a  fiancee). The not so good, the loss of a friend dear to me to a tragic accident. Outside of the tragedy, it was basically a steady year that flew by extremely fast. I am truly grateful for the newfound insight and wisdom 2017 left me with. However, I am glad for another year and a new beginning.

To cap the year off I got a chance to do one of my favorite things with one of my favorite gal pals. Paint and Sip!!! Yes, who knew that painting your own unique masterpiece could be so therapeutic. If you’ve never taken a paint class you must treat yourself. I have been to several venues who host paint and sip (you get to paint and enjoy a beverage, customarily wine, BYOB). For this outing I visited Pinot’s Palette. I loved the atmosphere and the hosts were awesome as well.

Check out some of the pics from our wonderful paint night experience:

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Me with my finished creation
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My bff & I enjoying our chilly night out
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Our hostess painting that guided us through the night!

 

Looking forward to filling you in on some things and having you along for the journey of this new year. Please subscribe so you won’t miss a beat.

~Soulfully/Truthfully Yours~

 

 

Class is Back in Session

 

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So yesterday was the first day of classes. This semester I have 2 online and 1 that I am going in for. I have my planner in order and getting myself organized for the semester. As I am preparing for the semester I see that me being in class 2 nights a week (Tues & Thurs) and other obligations on Wednesdays I will be away from home more often than not during the week.

Yesterday we grabbed fast food on my way in from class. I was actually disgusted with it. I made a mental note to myself that my family and I will not eat fast food several nights a week this semester so of course I had to come up with a plan.

Meal prepping is a practice that I’ve been hearing about forever but never took the time to try out myself. Starting this Sunday I plan to prepare at least 3-4 meats for the week. My classes are not too too long so I can easily prepare sides when I get home. With the meats prepared I won’t have  to worry about everyone being up way past their bedtimes waiting for dinner to get done. I can see everyone sitting down to eat dinner by 8:00 p.m. then going to bed no later than 9:00 p.m. This meal prepping thing will save money and time.

Juggling a full-time job, a family, and school is not the easiest but there are no excuses. You have to try out different things that will help make your journey easier for you. I will keep you all posted about my meal prepping. If you have any tips or suggestions for me please leave them in the comments.

*Soulfully True*

HELLO 2017

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Happy 2017 everyone!!

I welcome it with open arms.

The last leg of 2016  (July & after) was totally unpredictable. If you read “The Master-Plan is not always Master” you know I was let go from my job of 7 years. That was a total shock. I lost my paternal grandmother the day after my last day of employment. That brought on another whirlwind of emotions. Both of these things were totally unexpected. You can never prepare yourself for such things. After the initial  shock and emotions from my losses I got through the rest of the year with a high held head and joy in my heart. I refused to let myself stay down in a funk.

Ok now. Enough of that already… HELLO 2017!!!

I’m so grateful for a clean slate and the opportunity at all life has to offer.

Stay tuned…..

The Master-Plan is not always Master

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In life we all make plans. These big, grand plans of the way we want things to go in our life. It’s pretty ironic that nothing ever goes as planned.

I’ve been on my current job for 7 years in a position that although I am blessed to have doesn’t make me feel very great. But I had a plan. My plan was to continue working my mediocre job and finish my education since my company pays for it 100%. No matter how unhappy I was with with my job I was going to stick to my plan. Guess what I almost made it until an unexpected loop got thrown into my “grand plan”. Last Thursday I was called into an impromptu meeting that I did not see coming at all. This meeting included my immediate supervisor, the head of the department, another staff member and a man in a suit that I was soon to learn was a HR personnel. I was all smiles as usual thinking this was a usual workday meeting. To my surprise the other staff member and myself were handed a 90 day notice of our job ending. Not in a million years did I expect this to happen. After all I had “planned” to graduate college on my job’s dime and gladly hand them my 2 weeks’s notice and go find this wonderful job in my desired field. Boy did they bring me back to earth. It took all I had to hold my tears in and not cry in front of the people who are putting a stunt in my livelihood.

My initial thoughts were OMG what am I going to do? My second thoughts were well hey maybe this is meant. I have 90 days to figure out a plan. There I go with this “plan” mess lol. I was giving the permission to go home early and come to terms with things. I was in shock and disbelief but aside from that I saw a gleam of sunshine. I have been struggling taking care of a family, working a full time job, and juggling classes. The latter of course had my least focus. I’ve been in school the last so many years but it has kind of taken the backseat of everything else. Especially work. It got hard. My grades were starting to slip. I stressed trying to figure out how I could do an internship in my field to kind of get a feel of things. Once I got home from work, cleaned, and fed my family. I was often too tired to pick up a school book. I never felt I had time to focus and give 100% on the thing that was most important to me. Could this curve ball layoff that wasn’t a part of my “plan” be exactly what I needed? Is this my opportunity to combine my savings, the severance pay they will give me, and use my unemployment benefits to focus on my last year of school? In addition to the cash amount of my severance package, the company is also willing to pay for 2 more years of school. Wow I’m winning right?!

I haven’t shared my news with many but the one’s I have are so supportive. I was actually expecting a lot of negative feedback but the one’s closest to me never lost sight of my potential. They believe in me and know I will be A ok whatever direction I decide to take. For that I am so grateful. My significant other seems worried although he won’t admit but I assured him everything will be A ok. Everything happens for a reason. Although what lies ahead of me is very scary since I don’t have any solid “plans” I am very optimistic. Plans are meant to change so why not just have an idea of things and just go with the flow. I have a pilot that is in charge of the journey of my life. He just had to remind me. God is great! I can’t say everything will be perfect and peachy. I can’t say I won’t get sad and cry sometimes. I can’t say I have it all figured it out. What I can say is everything will be ok. I really believe that!

My Very First Vision Board Party!!!

This past Sunday I hosted my 1st Vision Board party and it was a success. Some may be wondering what on earth is a Vision Board party? Well I’m just the person to tell you. Firstly, a vision board is a poster board or an electronic board where you place all of your dreams, goals, and visions for your future (mainly the year you made the vision board). You place your vision board in a place where you can see it often so you can always be reminded of what you are striving for. Nothing like being able to see your mission & vision daily. It’s motivating to have a great visual and daily reminder of things you strive for. It’s also refreshing to look at your board throughout the year and see all of the wonderful things manifesting in your life. Keep in mind you have to do your part and work hard to achieve your goals for best results. A friend of mine summed it all up with Vision Boards Brought to Life.

I asked everyone to bring their own poster boards which only cost $1 at any dollar store. I supplied glue, scissors, magazines, stickers, glitter, etc. I provided a simple spread of appetizers and boxed wine to make it a little more festive ;-). I had around 9 guests different age ranges, different walks of life but everyone got along so well. Great, positive conversations & mellow music in the background filled the room as everyone went to work on their board. After we finished with our boards everyone got a chance to present theirs to the group. I was so impressed with everyone’s board. I felt very blessed to know so many goal oriented and ambitious women. With that being said, a Vision Board party is when you get together with great people, throw in some good snacks, and a little wine while creating your vision and putting it on paper… Well poster board in this case!! 🙂

Check out some of my pictures from the Vision Board party!!!

 

 

Introduction of Me

Maybe I never introduced myself properly. My name is Andrea Jones. Born and raised in Memphis, TN. My mom and dad made me but my mom raised me as a single mom and I’ll be the first to say she did an excellent job.

I am a mother to a daughter which I had at the age of 24. I am not and never have been married but her father and I are in  a great co parenting situation. Things haven’t always been peachy with that but it’s going great now. Our aim is to raise a happy and well-rounded young lady with the help of our own individual support teams. I’ll tell you more about my co parenting life in another blog. I am a sister, a niece, a cousin, a daughter, a granddaughter, a significant other, a friend and more.

I work full-time Mon- Fri as an administrative assistant and take classes with goals of obtaining a bachelors in Journalism/Public Relations. I have a pretty active social life because I try to be there to celebrate others milestones, achievements, and life. I am a lover of lists of things to do, goals and plans, and current achievements. I love to write although I don’t do it as much as I would like. I still own every journal/diary I had since elementary as proof of my love of writing.

I am addicted to improving myself so here are a few things I am currently working on to improve myself:

  • Exercising regularly
  • Eating cleaner
  • Becoming better organized
  • Gossiping less 🙂
  • Improving study habits
  • Minimizing Facebook & other distractions
  • Improving money management skills
  • Building savings
  • Investing money
  • Reading the bible more
  • Praying more
  • Traveling more

My loves:

  •  Cooking
  • Reading
  • Crafting (a new love)
  • Traveling
  • Brunching or lunching with my girlfriends
  • Making memories with my family
  • Going to concerts and museums
  • Writing

Of course I love to be out and about but being home doing absolutely nothing is a favorite pastime of mine as well. A day of Lifetime in my pjs is quite satisfying to me.

My biggest goal is doing all I can to be the best mother and example for my daughter. It’s tough juggling work, school, raising a daughter, and host of other things but I feel that a lot of things are necessary for the betterment of me which results in the betterment of us. If I could do things all over again I would have completed my education before having kids but here’s the thing with woulda, coulda, shoulda……. YOU DIDN’T!!! The good thing about that is IT’S NEVER TOO LATE.

My biggest concern sometimes is, am I doing too much (school-wise especially) and taking too much time away from my daughter? The answer to my own question, it’s all for a good reason. I try my best to make all of the time we spend together matter even if we are just sitting in the house. We have shared a lot of great memories and will continue to make more. Although I’ve been taking online classes to allow me to be at home with her instead of at school these last couple of years, I feel it’s now the time to get back to some face to face school interaction. I will try my best to not be away too much. I have to stay focused and assure myself and my daughter that this will only be temporary. I have 2 years left in school (hopefully) and we will be in a better place. I will be happier being in my chosen field and it’ll be another achievement added to my list. With my awesome support system, a couple of hours away a couple of days a week won’t be so bad!

I hope through this blog post you were able to get to know me a little better. I look forward to sharing more of me and my world with you soon!!

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