My Very First Vision Board Party!!!

This past Sunday I hosted my 1st Vision Board party and it was a success. Some may be wondering what on earth is a Vision Board party? Well I’m just the person to tell you. Firstly, a vision board is a poster board or an electronic board where you place all of your dreams, goals, and visions for your future (mainly the year you made the vision board). You place your vision board in a place where you can see it often so you can always be reminded of what you are striving for. Nothing like being able to see your mission & vision daily. It’s motivating to have a great visual and daily reminder of things you strive for. It’s also refreshing to look at your board throughout the year and see all of the wonderful things manifesting in your life. Keep in mind you have to do your part and work hard to achieve your goals for best results. A friend of mine summed it all up with Vision Boards Brought to Life.

I asked everyone to bring their own poster boards which only cost $1 at any dollar store. I supplied glue, scissors, magazines, stickers, glitter, etc. I provided a simple spread of appetizers and boxed wine to make it a little more festive ;-). I had around 9 guests different age ranges, different walks of life but everyone got along so well. Great, positive conversations & mellow music in the background filled the room as everyone went to work on their board. After we finished with our boards everyone got a chance to present theirs to the group. I was so impressed with everyone’s board. I felt very blessed to know so many goal oriented and ambitious women. With that being said, a Vision Board party is when you get together with great people, throw in some good snacks, and a little wine while creating your vision and putting it on paper… Well poster board in this case!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Check out some of my pictures from the Vision Board party!!!

 

 

No Drama

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Sometimes the most gut wrenching things that happen in your life are caused by an outside source. You can be in your own world trying to walk a straight line and build a positive life for yourself and your future and drama can fall right in your lap. In the past I have addressed the drama. I fussed, I fought. Whatever you can think of I did it.

Quite recently I found myself in battle of words with someone I hold very dear to my heart. The tone, the words that were said left me in an ocean of tears. How could this person harbor so much anger towards me and I think the world of them? That’s when I realized some of the people closest to you sometimes have the most negative things to say about you. Some things may be true but a lot of things are that person searching high and low for negatives to make you feel bad and bring you down to their hurting soul. Besides if a person who cares wants to provide criticism to you, a personal, un hostile setting would be ideal for such a situation. Some people appreciate the fact of magnifying your flaws with an attempt to humiliate you in front of others.

Those battle of words I had with a loved one recently left me physically and mentally drained. I had to step back to get away from it all and focus on me. I can’t deal with the negativity and drama so I had to ask myself why do you let people push you to stoop to their level? I’m on a different path and silly things that don’t impact myself or the world positively are beneath me. I will learn to turn the cheek more and realize there may always be just as much negative being thrown at me as positive. I cannot control others but I can most definitely control me.

A friend of mine recently offered me some advice saying, “don’t fight every battle that comes your way.” I’ve found that not everyone thinks I’m a great person. Not everyone understands and appreciate who I am. Truth is I would be one tired woman trying to battle it out with everyone who speaks or feels poorly of me. I’m confident enough to know I am an awesome, imperfect soul. I cannot argue and convince a person to see the positive in me when all they want to see is negative. Why even waste all my energy to do so when I am surrounded by others who see the greatness in me? Walking away is more satisfying than indulging myself in battles and petty drama. I try to treat everyone with kindness because that’s how I would like to be treated in return. I can control my words and thought process but I can’t control those of others. Turning a cheek to mess is the best thing ever for me. Xoxo Soulfully True

Staying Positive in a Negative World

positiveSometimes you have to sit back and bite the bullet and realize it’s not always about what you decide to designate your focus on. What I mean by that is not allowing negative people and situations to get the best of you. Don’t focus so much of your attention on them that you become a negative, grouchy, or complaining person. You must never forget that everything you go through is just a chapter or page in your life that you get to turn and start fresh the next day or even the next second, minute, or hour. I deal with quite a few negative people on a daily and at the moment I can’t necessarily remove them from my life so I have to figure out a way to co-exist with them positively. Even when these people “try” to shame me or”try” to make me feel lower than them, I have to smile and control the tongue but still come out on top. Focus on strengthening you instead of letting the negativity drain the “you” out of you.

At this moment in my life I am shaking all the negative off and trying to get back to being the “me” that I know. I must admit I have let negativity push me to a place that I really don’t like. There have been moments where I cry, feel anxious, and just feel overall disconnected from everything. I know that is no way to live. You can not allow things out of your control to take you there. It is definitely unhealthy. You have to think of ways to change the negatives into positive. Figure out ways to improve yourself to help you handle negatives in a positive way because whether we like it or not negativity will always be a part of the world. Let me give you an example, I deal with a very negative, mean-spirited person in the workplace who loves to put you in a position to point out your flaws. I hardly ever get positive feedback from this person. True in life you will get criticized but in this case the things I’m criticized about the critic could use tons of work in those areas as well. Instead of grow she’d rather belittle. It ticks me off. On the other hand I have learned to accept that person for who they are because I cannot change them. I can only change my actions or reactions to them. Firstly, I cannot defend my flaws that they point out with the fact that they have similar or the same flaws because that doesn’t make it right. What I can do is work on the things pointed out and improve in those areas if there is indeed room for improvement.ย  When a negative person runs out of negative things to say to you they cannot win. Of course some will still try to turn anything you do into a negative. That’s why you have to use your mind and choose to smile at them and continue being the best YOU you can be and realize that some people are not happy within themselves so they will never be happy with you. With that being said, I’ve decided to keep my head up, smile, pray and meditate often, and try hard not to let negative people and situations get the best of me.