Janet Jackson Concert Rocked

So the other day I was minding my own business when my mom called to let me know a friend of hers had a pair of tickets that she wanted to give away for the Janet Jackson concert and asked if I would like to have them. My thoughts were, “is this a trick question”? lol. Of course I would be crazy to turn down the opportunity to see a legend such as Janet Jackson. It didn’t even matter that the tickets weren’t the best seats and I didn’t have time to get an exclusive outfit together for the concert. The spontaneity of the entire ordeal made it even better. I called up my my best girl pal and we were set! Plus did I mention it was FREE!!!!!!!

Enough of the rambling now on to the good stuff. Tuesday, September 29, 2015 Miss Jackson came to the FedEx Forum in Memphis, TN and did not disappoint at all. Her voice was amazing, her dance moves were rocking, she looked stunning, and she put on an overall excellent show!! This small, unexpected blessing was an opportunity of a lifetime for me!! I’m an 80s baby so I’m all about the 80s and 90s R&B/Pop. If you have the opportunity to check out Janet Jackson on her Unbreakable Tour, you will be in for a treat. Check out some of the pictures from my night:

Janet!!! #theunbreakabletour

Janet!!! #theunbreakabletour

Janet!!! #theunbreakabletour

Janet!!! #theunbreakabletour

Janet!!! #theunbreakabletour

Janet!!! #theunbreakabletour

Me after the concert!!

Me after the concert!!

My bestie & I

My bestie & I

Great Experience!!

Great Experience!!

Another Awesome Birthday!!

My birthday was Monday, August 24th and I must admit, I always have awesome birthdays. I save my money throughout the year so I can do fun things to celebrate me once a year. This year wasn’t any different. Although I didn’t start making plans weeks and months in advance and reaching out to a lot of people like usual, my spare of the moment plans turned out well. I enjoyed everything.

I had the opportunity to go to Los Angeles, California last week and it was everything I could imagine. Although it was kind of business related I considered it the kick off to my birthday celebration and made the most of my personal time as well. I did a little shopping, a bunch of eating, and some sightseeing. The sucky part about it was I was only there for a couple of days and I didn’t get to explore everything I wanted but I absolutely enjoyed the beautiful weather, palm trees, and the beach. I most definitely see myself making a trip back in the very near future.

When I got off of my overnight flight back home Saturday morning I got a couple of hours of shut eye and was ready to go. My first stop was to go enjoy juicy, succulent crab legs at the casino. My beau knows that crab legs are one thing that make me very happy so he made sure to include them in the days agenda. After crab legs I went to hang out with my family members. Of course that night including side aching laughs.

Sunday afternoon was my annual birthday brunch. I know I forgot to mention this one fact but here goes. My mom and I share the same birthday. Yes her water decided to break on her birthday when she was headed out to celebrate herself. I was ready to come out to celebrate too!! 🙂 So basically my mom and I have a birthday brunch at this amazing restaurant in downtown Memphis, TN named The Majestic Grille every year. Just like every year it was an amazing turn out of family and friends. I waited until the last minute to tell my crowd but many were still able to show up and the ones who couldn’t sent their love and wishes! 🙂 Later that day my grandma fixed me an awesome Sunday dinner which included a made from scratch strawberry cake!! 🙂

The finale, my actual birthday fell on a Monday so I took the day off. It began as a lazy day of laying in bed. I received breakfast in bed so that was a plus!! I got up and did a little shopping until it was time to go get my daughter from school. We then prepared to go to my mom’s and I annual birthday dinner at Benihana (Honestly can’t beat the $30 birthday voucher they give you when you sign up for their birthday club). It was more of an intimate crowd (a party of 5) this year but as always it was awesome!! I enjoyed the food and the show the hibachi chef put on. Most of all I loved my company.

This birthday was very laid back and it kind of reflects my growth. I am usually in party mode but really wasn’t up for that much this year. Not saying I’ve completely retired the party scene just wasn’t feeling it. I appreciate the birthday wishes and love my family and friends showed me! Check out my pics from my birthday festivities!!:)

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Fun in LA

FUn in LA

FUn in LA

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Fun in LA

Fun in LA

Fun in LA

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Crablegs!! My fave!

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My mom’s & I birthday brunch!

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My mom’s & I birthday brunch!

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My mom & I at our birthday brunch!

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My mom & I at our birthday brunch!

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My beautiful daughter & I at the birthday brunch!

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My mom’s & I birthday brunch!

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Me with my girlfriends at the birthday brunch!!

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Strawberry cake my grandma made for me!

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My beautiful grandma and I

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Me on my birthday! Dinner at Benihanas

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My mom and my daughter. Dinner at Benihana

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My little family!

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Dinner at Benihana

How to Stay Out of the Friend Zone

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A friend of mine recently rehashed a discussion he had with someone else about the “Friend Zone”. Hmmm what is the “Friend Zone” you ask? The Friend Zone is when a person you are romantically interested in place you in the box of “just a friend”. I know you’re thinking well isn’t it good to be a friend first before anything? Yes I do agree with that but it is different levels to it. You must be clear with your intentions from the jump, do not be their counselor, do not get too friendish  with them, and lastly be real and speak your mind/heart.

Firstly, you have to be real with yourself. What do you really want out of this person that you are pursuing or want to pursue? When you know what you want from them you should make that very clear in advance. Do not put yourself in a situation where you unconsciously become the go-to person for the open ear and shoulder to cry on. It’s nice to have sympathy for a person but don’t let it get too deep. I’m pretty sure this person has close friends they can already seek to vent about certain things mainly romance woes. You may want to diffuse that situation quickly before it gets out of hand.

Surely, you can get to know the person and talk about personal matters such as dreams, goals, likes/dislikes and other things of that nature. Let the conversation flow in a fun, a little flirty, and easy manner. Never let it be a one sided situation where they are sharing all of their woes and you are their adviser/counselor. Keep it light. You have to make sure they know you are not their counselor, you are a person who would love to eventually become the one for them.

    When you spend time with this person, let it be known to them that you consider this a special occasion. Not saying this has to be extravagant. Rewording your invitation to them might do the trick. Example, instead of saying lets get together to hang out, why not say, “Are you free this Friday, I would love to take you out?” or instead of saying come over for pizza and movies say, “I would like to have a special in-house movie and pizza date with you, are you available”? In my opinion that’s not coming off too pushy but you are making it clear that you’re not trying to hang out as buds, you have a special interest in mind.

    I can go on and on with pointers to stay out of the friend zone. Out of everything I can say most importantly, speak your mind. A closed mouth will never get fed. You are indeed the author of your own love story!!

Soulfully True

No New Friends??? Really?

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As a young woman approaching a new age bracket, I’m beginning to see things a lot differently. Certainly I’ve always been a social butterfly in a sense but now I’m even more up for the challenge of meeting new people of all different walks of life. Of course I have a close-knit group of friends whom I’ve been around for years but I don’t like to subject myself to just them.

Socializing and networking with new people allows you the opportunity to grow as a person. A lot of people, mainly women, are catty about developing new relationships with other women.  Being closed-minded and stuck in clique mode is absolutely limiting. Life can quickly go into the doldrums dealing with the same people and same things day in and day out. How can you learn about new things such as events, jobs, or even hobbies if you exclude yourself from the rest of the world socially? Not saying become besties or girl pals with everyone you come in contact with but these same “strangers” could one day be your colleagues, business partners, spiritual advisers, clients, mentor, etc.

Drake says, “No New Friends”, I say, “Broaden Your Horizons”