Introduction of Me

Maybe I never introduced myself properly. My name is Andrea Jones. Born and raised in Memphis, TN. My mom and dad made me but my mom raised me as a single mom and I’ll be the first to say she did an excellent job.

I am a mother to a daughter which I had at the age of 24. I am not and never have been married but her father and I are in  a great co parenting situation. Things haven’t always been peachy with that but it’s going great now. Our aim is to raise a happy and well-rounded young lady with the help of our own individual support teams. I’ll tell you more about my co parenting life in another blog. I am a sister, a niece, a cousin, a daughter, a granddaughter, a significant other, a friend and more.

I work full-time Mon- Fri as an administrative assistant and take classes with goals of obtaining a bachelors in Journalism/Public Relations. I have a pretty active social life because I try to be there to celebrate others milestones, achievements, and life. I am a lover of lists of things to do, goals and plans, and current achievements. I love to write although I don’t do it as much as I would like. I still own every journal/diary I had since elementary as proof of my love of writing.

I am addicted to improving myself so here are a few things I am currently working on to improve myself:

  • Exercising regularly
  • Eating cleaner
  • Becoming better organized
  • Gossiping less 🙂
  • Improving study habits
  • Minimizing Facebook & other distractions
  • Improving money management skills
  • Building savings
  • Investing money
  • Reading the bible more
  • Praying more
  • Traveling more

My loves:

  •  Cooking
  • Reading
  • Crafting (a new love)
  • Traveling
  • Brunching or lunching with my girlfriends
  • Making memories with my family
  • Going to concerts and museums
  • Writing

Of course I love to be out and about but being home doing absolutely nothing is a favorite pastime of mine as well. A day of Lifetime in my pjs is quite satisfying to me.

My biggest goal is doing all I can to be the best mother and example for my daughter. It’s tough juggling work, school, raising a daughter, and host of other things but I feel that a lot of things are necessary for the betterment of me which results in the betterment of us. If I could do things all over again I would have completed my education before having kids but here’s the thing with woulda, coulda, shoulda……. YOU DIDN’T!!! The good thing about that is IT’S NEVER TOO LATE.

My biggest concern sometimes is, am I doing too much (school-wise especially) and taking too much time away from my daughter? The answer to my own question, it’s all for a good reason. I try my best to make all of the time we spend together matter even if we are just sitting in the house. We have shared a lot of great memories and will continue to make more. Although I’ve been taking online classes to allow me to be at home with her instead of at school these last couple of years, I feel it’s now the time to get back to some face to face school interaction. I will try my best to not be away too much. I have to stay focused and assure myself and my daughter that this will only be temporary. I have 2 years left in school (hopefully) and we will be in a better place. I will be happier being in my chosen field and it’ll be another achievement added to my list. With my awesome support system, a couple of hours away a couple of days a week won’t be so bad!

I hope through this blog post you were able to get to know me a little better. I look forward to sharing more of me and my world with you soon!!

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No Drama

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Sometimes the most gut wrenching things that happen in your life are caused by an outside source. You can be in your own world trying to walk a straight line and build a positive life for yourself and your future and drama can fall right in your lap. In the past I have addressed the drama. I fussed, I fought. Whatever you can think of I did it.

Quite recently I found myself in battle of words with someone I hold very dear to my heart. The tone, the words that were said left me in an ocean of tears. How could this person harbor so much anger towards me and I think the world of them? That’s when I realized some of the people closest to you sometimes have the most negative things to say about you. Some things may be true but a lot of things are that person searching high and low for negatives to make you feel bad and bring you down to their hurting soul. Besides if a person who cares wants to provide criticism to you, a personal, un hostile setting would be ideal for such a situation. Some people appreciate the fact of magnifying your flaws with an attempt to humiliate you in front of others.

Those battle of words I had with a loved one recently left me physically and mentally drained. I had to step back to get away from it all and focus on me. I can’t deal with the negativity and drama so I had to ask myself why do you let people push you to stoop to their level? I’m on a different path and silly things that don’t impact myself or the world positively are beneath me. I will learn to turn the cheek more and realize there may always be just as much negative being thrown at me as positive. I cannot control others but I can most definitely control me.

A friend of mine recently offered me some advice saying, “don’t fight every battle that comes your way.” I’ve found that not everyone thinks I’m a great person. Not everyone understands and appreciate who I am. Truth is I would be one tired woman trying to battle it out with everyone who speaks or feels poorly of me. I’m confident enough to know I am an awesome, imperfect soul. I cannot argue and convince a person to see the positive in me when all they want to see is negative. Why even waste all my energy to do so when I am surrounded by others who see the greatness in me? Walking away is more satisfying than indulging myself in battles and petty drama. I try to treat everyone with kindness because that’s how I would like to be treated in return. I can control my words and thought process but I can’t control those of others. Turning a cheek to mess is the best thing ever for me. Xoxo Soulfully True

Live for you!!!

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Sometimes you just have to live for you and do you! Some people won’t like you for it but what I learned in my 25+ years is the one’s who matter in your life will roll with you however you bring it! People can be with you or against you but no matter what you gotta be you…. I may have a smart mouth sometimes, a little anti at times, talk too much at times, and a gang of other things. But I have a heart ❤ of gold and if I mess with you I mess with you for real and I have so many who can vouch for this. I have always did me without giving an explanation and stayed out the way of mess and drama. I like to associate myself with people who are on the same!! I’ve never had to force friendships or relationships!! I have people who accept me for me and want me in their life and they get the same from me. We may be different, and make different choices, and decisions but we still respect ourselves and others at all times!! If we don’t understand we gain some type of understanding. We don’t claim to be perfect just living life and doing us!!  If you don’t surround yourself with people who accept you for you, you’re losing!!!

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Summer Fun

My daughter, as all  kids are this summer, is all about going swimming and getting wet. I thought she had enough pool action from her week long vacation in Arizona. Obviously not. After a little research, I decided on a cool inexpensive spot to cool off from the scorching summer sun. It’s a little spot downtown Memphis in between Main Street and Adams near the trolley that is indeed a hidden gem. I’ve been staying in Memphis all of my life but never knew where this piece of water heaven was located. We had to park our car and walk the small distance to our destination. My daughter insisted on riding her bike which was fine with me. As we approached the spot, my daughter got super excited as she watched water splatter from different fountains all around. At first she was quite shy to dive in but after a while she could not get enough!! I’m glad she had a great time, a chance to cool off, and last but not least we didn’t spend a dime. Take a look at the pics. We will definitely be back!!

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