If you are a writer and you are not writing,
somebody is missing their blessing.
~Arthur Bronner III~
If you are a writer and you are not writing,
somebody is missing their blessing.
~Arthur Bronner III~
Maybe I never introduced myself properly. My name is Andrea Jones. Born and raised in Memphis, TN. My mom and dad made me but my mom raised me as a single mom and I’ll be the first to say she did an excellent job.
I am a mother to a daughter which I had at the age of 24. I am not and never have been married but her father and I are in a great co parenting situation. Things haven’t always been peachy with that but it’s going great now. Our aim is to raise a happy and well-rounded young lady with the help of our own individual support teams. I’ll tell you more about my co parenting life in another blog. I am a sister, a niece, a cousin, a daughter, a granddaughter, a significant other, a friend and more.
I work full-time Mon- Fri as an administrative assistant and take classes with goals of obtaining a bachelors in Journalism/Public Relations. I have a pretty active social life because I try to be there to celebrate others milestones, achievements, and life. I am a lover of lists of things to do, goals and plans, and current achievements. I love to write although I don’t do it as much as I would like. I still own every journal/diary I had since elementary as proof of my love of writing.
I am addicted to improving myself so here are a few things I am currently working on to improve myself:
Of course I love to be out and about but being home doing absolutely nothing is a favorite pastime of mine as well. A day of Lifetime in my pjs is quite satisfying to me.
My biggest goal is doing all I can to be the best mother and example for my daughter. It’s tough juggling work, school, raising a daughter, and host of other things but I feel that a lot of things are necessary for the betterment of me which results in the betterment of us. If I could do things all over again I would have completed my education before having kids but here’s the thing with woulda, coulda, shoulda……. YOU DIDN’T!!! The good thing about that is IT’S NEVER TOO LATE.
My biggest concern sometimes is, am I doing too much (school-wise especially) and taking too much time away from my daughter? The answer to my own question, it’s all for a good reason. I try my best to make all of the time we spend together matter even if we are just sitting in the house. We have shared a lot of great memories and will continue to make more. Although I’ve been taking online classes to allow me to be at home with her instead of at school these last couple of years, I feel it’s now the time to get back to some face to face school interaction. I will try my best to not be away too much. I have to stay focused and assure myself and my daughter that this will only be temporary. I have 2 years left in school (hopefully) and we will be in a better place. I will be happier being in my chosen field and it’ll be another achievement added to my list. With my awesome support system, a couple of hours away a couple of days a week won’t be so bad!
I hope through this blog post you were able to get to know me a little better. I look forward to sharing more of me and my world with you soon!!
So the other day I was minding my own business when my mom called to let me know a friend of hers had a pair of tickets that she wanted to give away for the Janet Jackson concert and asked if I would like to have them. My thoughts were, “is this a trick question”? lol. Of course I would be crazy to turn down the opportunity to see a legend such as Janet Jackson. It didn’t even matter that the tickets weren’t the best seats and I didn’t have time to get an exclusive outfit together for the concert. The spontaneity of the entire ordeal made it even better. I called up my my best girl pal and we were set! Plus did I mention it was FREE!!!!!!!
Enough of the rambling now on to the good stuff. Tuesday, September 29, 2015 Miss Jackson came to the FedEx Forum in Memphis, TN and did not disappoint at all. Her voice was amazing, her dance moves were rocking, she looked stunning, and she put on an overall excellent show!! This small, unexpected blessing was an opportunity of a lifetime for me!! I’m an 80s baby so I’m all about the 80s and 90s R&B/Pop. If you have the opportunity to check out Janet Jackson on her Unbreakable Tour, you will be in for a treat. Check out some of the pictures from my night:
A divine masterpiece is what I consider myself to be. A fine piece of art that’s getting designed and fine tuned for the world to see.
I’m an original creation so of course I come with blemishes and flaws. The imperfections add to my beauty so my audience should not be appalled.
A whirl wind of colors and unique characteristics that helps me stand out. The beauty you see on the outside is only a small portion of what this masterpiece is about.
My brush of life makes many errors and the eraser comes in hand. You’ll have to be the creator of this canvas to fully understand.
Big strokes and little strokes represent all of the chances I take. The different variations shows this is original art and not fake.
I play around with different elements until I find what works best for me. Trial and error is the best method for this colorful yet interesting journey.
A masterpiece is in the works this is not just unfinished art on the easel. Beautiful things take time just think of the Mona Lisa.
I have always been infatuated by poetry. A fun way to express your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Poetry is like a stress reliever in the form of a pen and pad. You can take yourself wherever you would like to go with poetry. Just you, your words, your thoughts, your pen, and pad on a journey to whatever heights you want to take yourself!!!
My birthday was Monday, August 24th and I must admit, I always have awesome birthdays. I save my money throughout the year so I can do fun things to celebrate me once a year. This year wasn’t any different. Although I didn’t start making plans weeks and months in advance and reaching out to a lot of people like usual, my spare of the moment plans turned out well. I enjoyed everything.
I had the opportunity to go to Los Angeles, California last week and it was everything I could imagine. Although it was kind of business related I considered it the kick off to my birthday celebration and made the most of my personal time as well. I did a little shopping, a bunch of eating, and some sightseeing. The sucky part about it was I was only there for a couple of days and I didn’t get to explore everything I wanted but I absolutely enjoyed the beautiful weather, palm trees, and the beach. I most definitely see myself making a trip back in the very near future.
When I got off of my overnight flight back home Saturday morning I got a couple of hours of shut eye and was ready to go. My first stop was to go enjoy juicy, succulent crab legs at the casino. My beau knows that crab legs are one thing that make me very happy so he made sure to include them in the days agenda. After crab legs I went to hang out with my family members. Of course that night including side aching laughs.
Sunday afternoon was my annual birthday brunch. I know I forgot to mention this one fact but here goes. My mom and I share the same birthday. Yes her water decided to break on her birthday when she was headed out to celebrate herself. I was ready to come out to celebrate too!! 🙂 So basically my mom and I have a birthday brunch at this amazing restaurant in downtown Memphis, TN named The Majestic Grille every year. Just like every year it was an amazing turn out of family and friends. I waited until the last minute to tell my crowd but many were still able to show up and the ones who couldn’t sent their love and wishes! 🙂 Later that day my grandma fixed me an awesome Sunday dinner which included a made from scratch strawberry cake!! 🙂
The finale, my actual birthday fell on a Monday so I took the day off. It began as a lazy day of laying in bed. I received breakfast in bed so that was a plus!! I got up and did a little shopping until it was time to go get my daughter from school. We then prepared to go to my mom’s and I annual birthday dinner at Benihana (Honestly can’t beat the $30 birthday voucher they give you when you sign up for their birthday club). It was more of an intimate crowd (a party of 5) this year but as always it was awesome!! I enjoyed the food and the show the hibachi chef put on. Most of all I loved my company.
This birthday was very laid back and it kind of reflects my growth. I am usually in party mode but really wasn’t up for that much this year. Not saying I’ve completely retired the party scene just wasn’t feeling it. I appreciate the birthday wishes and love my family and friends showed me! Check out my pics from my birthday festivities!!:)
So I finally got a chance to experience the new Bass pro Shop located in the Pyramid of Memphis, TN. No I’m not a regular outdoorsy type of person but I can’t pretend I didn’t want to go find out what all of the hype all of us in the city of Memphis has been waiting 2 years to see about.
The transformation of the Pyramid into the Bass Pro Memphis retail shop was a total cost of 113 million. It includes a hotel, a rooftop restaurant, a sky ride, bowling alley, aquarium and more.
The line was extremely long to ride the elevator to the top of the pyramid to see all of the before mentioned things. You also have to pay $10 to ride the elevator up to gain access to all of the top floor perks.
Although the top floor is a popular tourist spot, you can find plenty of “free” excitement on the lower floor as well. A river flowing through the ground floor complete with fish, a huge wall fish tank, a gun shop, food shop, and much more. Check out some of my pics:
Sometimes the most gut wrenching things that happen in your life are caused by an outside source. You can be in your own world trying to walk a straight line and build a positive life for yourself and your future and drama can fall right in your lap. In the past I have addressed the drama. I fussed, I fought. Whatever you can think of I did it.
Quite recently I found myself in battle of words with someone I hold very dear to my heart. The tone, the words that were said left me in an ocean of tears. How could this person harbor so much anger towards me and I think the world of them? That’s when I realized some of the people closest to you sometimes have the most negative things to say about you. Some things may be true but a lot of things are that person searching high and low for negatives to make you feel bad and bring you down to their hurting soul. Besides if a person who cares wants to provide criticism to you, a personal, un hostile setting would be ideal for such a situation. Some people appreciate the fact of magnifying your flaws with an attempt to humiliate you in front of others.
Those battle of words I had with a loved one recently left me physically and mentally drained. I had to step back to get away from it all and focus on me. I can’t deal with the negativity and drama so I had to ask myself why do you let people push you to stoop to their level? I’m on a different path and silly things that don’t impact myself or the world positively are beneath me. I will learn to turn the cheek more and realize there may always be just as much negative being thrown at me as positive. I cannot control others but I can most definitely control me.
A friend of mine recently offered me some advice saying, “don’t fight every battle that comes your way.” I’ve found that not everyone thinks I’m a great person. Not everyone understands and appreciate who I am. Truth is I would be one tired woman trying to battle it out with everyone who speaks or feels poorly of me. I’m confident enough to know I am an awesome, imperfect soul. I cannot argue and convince a person to see the positive in me when all they want to see is negative. Why even waste all my energy to do so when I am surrounded by others who see the greatness in me? Walking away is more satisfying than indulging myself in battles and petty drama. I try to treat everyone with kindness because that’s how I would like to be treated in return. I can control my words and thought process but I can’t control those of others. Turning a cheek to mess is the best thing ever for me. Xoxo Soulfully True
A friend of mine recently rehashed a discussion he had with someone else about the “Friend Zone”. Hmmm what is the “Friend Zone” you ask? The Friend Zone is when a person you are romantically interested in place you in the box of “just a friend”. I know you’re thinking well isn’t it good to be a friend first before anything? Yes I do agree with that but it is different levels to it. You must be clear with your intentions from the jump, do not be their counselor, do not get too friendish with them, and lastly be real and speak your mind/heart.
Firstly, you have to be real with yourself. What do you really want out of this person that you are pursuing or want to pursue? When you know what you want from them you should make that very clear in advance. Do not put yourself in a situation where you unconsciously become the go-to person for the open ear and shoulder to cry on. It’s nice to have sympathy for a person but don’t let it get too deep. I’m pretty sure this person has close friends they can already seek to vent about certain things mainly romance woes. You may want to diffuse that situation quickly before it gets out of hand.
Surely, you can get to know the person and talk about personal matters such as dreams, goals, likes/dislikes and other things of that nature. Let the conversation flow in a fun, a little flirty, and easy manner. Never let it be a one sided situation where they are sharing all of their woes and you are their adviser/counselor. Keep it light. You have to make sure they know you are not their counselor, you are a person who would love to eventually become the one for them.
When you spend time with this person, let it be known to them that you consider this a special occasion. Not saying this has to be extravagant. Rewording your invitation to them might do the trick. Example, instead of saying lets get together to hang out, why not say, “Are you free this Friday, I would love to take you out?” or instead of saying come over for pizza and movies say, “I would like to have a special in-house movie and pizza date with you, are you available”? In my opinion that’s not coming off too pushy but you are making it clear that you’re not trying to hang out as buds, you have a special interest in mind.
I can go on and on with pointers to stay out of the friend zone. Out of everything I can say most importantly, speak your mind. A closed mouth will never get fed. You are indeed the author of your own love story!!
Sometimes you just have to live for you and do you! Some people won’t like you for it but what I learned in my 25+ years is the one’s who matter in your life will roll with you however you bring it! People can be with you or against you but no matter what you gotta be you…. I may have a smart mouth sometimes, a little anti at times, talk too much at times, and a gang of other things. But I have a heart ❤ of gold and if I mess with you I mess with you for real and I have so many who can vouch for this. I have always did me without giving an explanation and stayed out the way of mess and drama. I like to associate myself with people who are on the same!! I’ve never had to force friendships or relationships!! I have people who accept me for me and want me in their life and they get the same from me. We may be different, and make different choices, and decisions but we still respect ourselves and others at all times!! If we don’t understand we gain some type of understanding. We don’t claim to be perfect just living life and doing us!! If you don’t surround yourself with people who accept you for you, you’re losing!!!