Happy 2018

Hello Hello!!

2017 was not too terrible. The good, job transitions, business launches, engagement (Yes engagement, I’m a  fiancee). The not so good, the loss of a friend dear to me to a tragic accident. Outside of the tragedy, it was basically a steady year that flew by extremely fast. I am truly grateful for the newfound insight and wisdom 2017 left me with. However, I am glad for another year and a new beginning.

To cap the year off I got a chance to do one of my favorite things with one of my favorite gal pals. Paint and Sip!!! Yes, who knew that painting your own unique masterpiece could be so therapeutic. If you’ve never taken a paint class you must treat yourself. I have been to several venues who host paint and sip (you get to paint and enjoy a beverage, customarily wine, BYOB). For this outing I visited Pinot’s Palette. I loved the atmosphere and the hosts were awesome as well.

Check out some of the pics from our wonderful paint night experience:

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Me with my finished creation

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My bff & I enjoying our chilly night out

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Our hostess painting that guided us through the night!

 

Looking forward to filling you in on some things and having you along for the journey of this new year. Please subscribe so you won’t miss a beat.

~Soulfully/Truthfully Yours~

 

 

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HELLO 2017

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Happy 2017 everyone!!

I welcome it with open arms.

The last leg of 2016  (July & after) was totally unpredictable. If you read “The Master-Plan is not always Master” you know I was let go from my job of 7 years. That was a total shock. I lost my paternal grandmother the day after my last day of employment. That brought on another whirlwind of emotions. Both of these things were totally unexpected. You can never prepare yourself for such things. After the initial  shock and emotions from my losses I got through the rest of the year with a high held head and joy in my heart. I refused to let myself stay down in a funk.

Ok now. Enough of that already… HELLO 2017!!!

I’m so grateful for a clean slate and the opportunity at all life has to offer.

Stay tuned…..

The Master-Plan is not always Master

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In life we all make plans. These big, grand plans of the way we want things to go in our life. It’s pretty ironic that nothing ever goes as planned.

I’ve been on my current job for 7 years in a position that although I am blessed to have doesn’t make me feel very great. But I had a plan. My plan was to continue working my mediocre job and finish my education since my company pays for it 100%. No matter how unhappy I was with with my job I was going to stick to my plan. Guess what I almost made it until an unexpected loop got thrown into my “grand plan”. Last Thursday I was called into an impromptu meeting that I did not see coming at all. This meeting included my immediate supervisor, the head of the department, another staff member and a man in a suit that I was soon to learn was a HR personnel. I was all smiles as usual thinking this was a usual workday meeting. To my surprise the other staff member and myself were handed a 90 day notice of our job ending. Not in a million years did I expect this to happen. After all I had “planned” to graduate college on my job’s dime and gladly hand them my 2 weeks’s notice and go find this wonderful job in my desired field. Boy did they bring me back to earth. It took all I had to hold my tears in and not cry in front of the people who are putting a stunt in my livelihood.

My initial thoughts were OMG what am I going to do? My second thoughts were well hey maybe this is meant. I have 90 days to figure out a plan. There I go with this “plan” mess lol. I was giving the permission to go home early and come to terms with things. I was in shock and disbelief but aside from that I saw a gleam of sunshine. I have been struggling taking care of a family, working a full time job, and juggling classes. The latter of course had my least focus. I’ve been in school the last so many years but it has kind of taken the backseat of everything else. Especially work. It got hard. My grades were starting to slip. I stressed trying to figure out how I could do an internship in my field to kind of get a feel of things. Once I got home from work, cleaned, and fed my family. I was often too tired to pick up a school book. I never felt I had time to focus and give 100% on the thing that was most important to me. Could this curve ball layoff that wasn’t a part of my “plan” be exactly what I needed? Is this my opportunity to combine my savings, the severance pay they will give me, and use my unemployment benefits to focus on my last year of school? In addition to the cash amount of my severance package, the company is also willing to pay for 2 more years of school. Wow I’m winning right?!

I haven’t shared my news with many but the one’s I have are so supportive. I was actually expecting a lot of negative feedback but the one’s closest to me never lost sight of my potential. They believe in me and know I will be A ok whatever direction I decide to take. For that I am so grateful. My significant other seems worried although he won’t admit but I assured him everything will be A ok. Everything happens for a reason. Although what lies ahead of me is very scary since I don’t have any solid “plans” I am very optimistic. Plans are meant to change so why not just have an idea of things and just go with the flow. I have a pilot that is in charge of the journey of my life. He just had to remind me. God is great! I can’t say everything will be perfect and peachy. I can’t say I won’t get sad and cry sometimes. I can’t say I have it all figured it out. What I can say is everything will be ok. I really believe that!

Introduction of Me

Maybe I never introduced myself properly. My name is Andrea Jones. Born and raised in Memphis, TN. My mom and dad made me but my mom raised me as a single mom and I’ll be the first to say she did an excellent job.

I am a mother to a daughter which I had at the age of 24. I am not and never have been married but her father and I are in  a great co parenting situation. Things haven’t always been peachy with that but it’s going great now. Our aim is to raise a happy and well-rounded young lady with the help of our own individual support teams. I’ll tell you more about my co parenting life in another blog. I am a sister, a niece, a cousin, a daughter, a granddaughter, a significant other, a friend and more.

I work full-time Mon- Fri as an administrative assistant and take classes with goals of obtaining a bachelors in Journalism/Public Relations. I have a pretty active social life because I try to be there to celebrate others milestones, achievements, and life. I am a lover of lists of things to do, goals and plans, and current achievements. I love to write although I don’t do it as much as I would like. I still own every journal/diary I had since elementary as proof of my love of writing.

I am addicted to improving myself so here are a few things I am currently working on to improve myself:

  • Exercising regularly
  • Eating cleaner
  • Becoming better organized
  • Gossiping less 🙂
  • Improving study habits
  • Minimizing Facebook & other distractions
  • Improving money management skills
  • Building savings
  • Investing money
  • Reading the bible more
  • Praying more
  • Traveling more

My loves:

  •  Cooking
  • Reading
  • Crafting (a new love)
  • Traveling
  • Brunching or lunching with my girlfriends
  • Making memories with my family
  • Going to concerts and museums
  • Writing

Of course I love to be out and about but being home doing absolutely nothing is a favorite pastime of mine as well. A day of Lifetime in my pjs is quite satisfying to me.

My biggest goal is doing all I can to be the best mother and example for my daughter. It’s tough juggling work, school, raising a daughter, and host of other things but I feel that a lot of things are necessary for the betterment of me which results in the betterment of us. If I could do things all over again I would have completed my education before having kids but here’s the thing with woulda, coulda, shoulda……. YOU DIDN’T!!! The good thing about that is IT’S NEVER TOO LATE.

My biggest concern sometimes is, am I doing too much (school-wise especially) and taking too much time away from my daughter? The answer to my own question, it’s all for a good reason. I try my best to make all of the time we spend together matter even if we are just sitting in the house. We have shared a lot of great memories and will continue to make more. Although I’ve been taking online classes to allow me to be at home with her instead of at school these last couple of years, I feel it’s now the time to get back to some face to face school interaction. I will try my best to not be away too much. I have to stay focused and assure myself and my daughter that this will only be temporary. I have 2 years left in school (hopefully) and we will be in a better place. I will be happier being in my chosen field and it’ll be another achievement added to my list. With my awesome support system, a couple of hours away a couple of days a week won’t be so bad!

I hope through this blog post you were able to get to know me a little better. I look forward to sharing more of me and my world with you soon!!

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No Drama

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Sometimes the most gut wrenching things that happen in your life are caused by an outside source. You can be in your own world trying to walk a straight line and build a positive life for yourself and your future and drama can fall right in your lap. In the past I have addressed the drama. I fussed, I fought. Whatever you can think of I did it.

Quite recently I found myself in battle of words with someone I hold very dear to my heart. The tone, the words that were said left me in an ocean of tears. How could this person harbor so much anger towards me and I think the world of them? That’s when I realized some of the people closest to you sometimes have the most negative things to say about you. Some things may be true but a lot of things are that person searching high and low for negatives to make you feel bad and bring you down to their hurting soul. Besides if a person who cares wants to provide criticism to you, a personal, un hostile setting would be ideal for such a situation. Some people appreciate the fact of magnifying your flaws with an attempt to humiliate you in front of others.

Those battle of words I had with a loved one recently left me physically and mentally drained. I had to step back to get away from it all and focus on me. I can’t deal with the negativity and drama so I had to ask myself why do you let people push you to stoop to their level? I’m on a different path and silly things that don’t impact myself or the world positively are beneath me. I will learn to turn the cheek more and realize there may always be just as much negative being thrown at me as positive. I cannot control others but I can most definitely control me.

A friend of mine recently offered me some advice saying, “don’t fight every battle that comes your way.” I’ve found that not everyone thinks I’m a great person. Not everyone understands and appreciate who I am. Truth is I would be one tired woman trying to battle it out with everyone who speaks or feels poorly of me. I’m confident enough to know I am an awesome, imperfect soul. I cannot argue and convince a person to see the positive in me when all they want to see is negative. Why even waste all my energy to do so when I am surrounded by others who see the greatness in me? Walking away is more satisfying than indulging myself in battles and petty drama. I try to treat everyone with kindness because that’s how I would like to be treated in return. I can control my words and thought process but I can’t control those of others. Turning a cheek to mess is the best thing ever for me. Xoxo Soulfully True

How to Stay Out of the Friend Zone

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A friend of mine recently rehashed a discussion he had with someone else about the “Friend Zone”. Hmmm what is the “Friend Zone” you ask? The Friend Zone is when a person you are romantically interested in place you in the box of “just a friend”. I know you’re thinking well isn’t it good to be a friend first before anything? Yes I do agree with that but it is different levels to it. You must be clear with your intentions from the jump, do not be their counselor, do not get too friendish  with them, and lastly be real and speak your mind/heart.

Firstly, you have to be real with yourself. What do you really want out of this person that you are pursuing or want to pursue? When you know what you want from them you should make that very clear in advance. Do not put yourself in a situation where you unconsciously become the go-to person for the open ear and shoulder to cry on. It’s nice to have sympathy for a person but don’t let it get too deep. I’m pretty sure this person has close friends they can already seek to vent about certain things mainly romance woes. You may want to diffuse that situation quickly before it gets out of hand.

Surely, you can get to know the person and talk about personal matters such as dreams, goals, likes/dislikes and other things of that nature. Let the conversation flow in a fun, a little flirty, and easy manner. Never let it be a one sided situation where they are sharing all of their woes and you are their adviser/counselor. Keep it light. You have to make sure they know you are not their counselor, you are a person who would love to eventually become the one for them.

    When you spend time with this person, let it be known to them that you consider this a special occasion. Not saying this has to be extravagant. Rewording your invitation to them might do the trick. Example, instead of saying lets get together to hang out, why not say, “Are you free this Friday, I would love to take you out?” or instead of saying come over for pizza and movies say, “I would like to have a special in-house movie and pizza date with you, are you available”? In my opinion that’s not coming off too pushy but you are making it clear that you’re not trying to hang out as buds, you have a special interest in mind.

    I can go on and on with pointers to stay out of the friend zone. Out of everything I can say most importantly, speak your mind. A closed mouth will never get fed. You are indeed the author of your own love story!!

Soulfully True

I’m Taking It Back

On my way to work this morning I was thinking about a lot of things that I have going on in my life.  Some of these things I deal with everyday. These thoughts do include negative situations that affect many areas of my life. These situations are not necessarily major but they’re things that I deal with daily. Honestly I try my best not to focus on these negative things because I know my time to move on from them is quickly approaching. I do get tired though and want to break down and want to wish certain circumstances away because they sometimes make me become a person I do not like. I find myself more irritated and caught in the middle of a lot of not exactly happy people. I have to put on a smile and keep myself positive but of course I have my moments.

I am blessed with friends and family who are good listeners to help me get through the tough situations. Thing is I don’t want to continue bringing my negative situations to people and I no longer want it brought to me. I’ve found that giving it too much of your energy takes a toll on your mind. I told myself I need more help spiritually. I need God to put things in perspective for me with the things I’m dealing with. He can and he will I just have to give him the wheel and receive the peace, wisdom, and strength that he has for me.I need him to work on my attitude and the way I deal with things.

I am for the most part a very positive person but I still have room for growth. I have a lot of things and people who I need to let go of to enable me to live a more peaceful and genuine life. In the midst of my thoughts I changed the radio station and a song called “I’m Taking it Back” by Shirley Caesar came on and I absolutely had a spiritual breakdown. She was saying that she is taking back her mind from all of the negative things. I broke down in tears because I truly needed to hear those words of encouragement.

We all have our own battle in this world be it small or large. We have to be very careful not to feed too much into them though because like everything in this world, IT TOO SHALL PASS. We cannot lose our peaceful mindset or strength when dealing with these battles. All I could do is thank God because I know I need to take it back (my mind). I can’t continue feeding into things and talking about things because it absolutely does not make it better. It actually causes more problems. I have goals I am working on. I’m a step closer to being in my chosen career field, I thrive to be a better mom,to become more spiritually in touch, a better example to others, a better friend and a host of other things. I have to keep looking ahead and not let negative situations take over my mind!! I’m taking it back! Soulfully True